I just want to be friends...Pt3

[breakdownbill]

I think you handled the call really well with your H.

Bill, yep, a few trust issues on the social front that's right! It all started way back when he lied to me in our early days together over some girl. I never got over that. I don't know about you, but my H hovers around females in a group because they are easier to talk to. He says it is as if he is talking to a guy. Whatever. It's an issue I'm going to have to deal with if we get back on track.

My W always had trust issues about me, even though I've never been unfaithful or done anything to make her feel like that. Ironically it's my W who does the same as your H and is a massive flirt.

I never had trust issues, although it would piss me off sometimes because I'd be like, 'Are you here with me or not'.

That last part in bold shows that you recognise what you need to do & are willing to put the work in to get over it.

We talked a little bit about that this time around and he said that it was something he wouldn't change and that he doesn't understand what the big deal is.

I wouldn't try & change him Yankee, that's what they call controlling behaviour - it's also about having reasonable boundaries and respecting each others feelings though as well.

Tough one, I seem to remember when you did an exhibit & someone showed an interest in you, your H stepped up his pursuit, maybe he'd deal with it the same way again.

Bill