This is good that you didn't push him away when he opened up to you, this is what you've been aiming for,for ages.
From what I'm reading between the lines in your posts, I'm guessing that your H fears your temper & feels resentment for allowing you to control his social life & I am guessing there were some trust issues on your part as well.
What I just wrote there could easily be about me. I remember my W being nasty, making snide remarks & trying to get into an argument with me every time I went out with my friends. She would aks so many questions, where are you going? what time will you be back? It really wore me down & after a while I just started saying no to my friends so I wouldn't have to deal with all that crap (I should have set boundaries then).
Whereas on the other hand I would encourage my W to go out with her friends, drop her off and sometimes even iron her stuff.
It really freaks me out seeing the similarities between your H and me.
I really think you are doing the right thing validating him by agreeing to not making the phone calls unpredictable betwee you guys - that'll help him deal with his resentments & help heal those bad feelings.
Hang in there mate, it's never as bad as you think
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
