I have read you since day 1 Pac and IMO I would not oblige. It seems enabling or rescuing to me and it seems you have got to a further phase of detachment lately. I think if you begin to do these things you will be subject to be sucked back into the vortex.
And where will it end? If you do these things then do you think she will ask you to do others? Where is your boundary? What are your limits? I feel she is cake eating and needs to deal with some reality of you not being able to take care of things for her.
