Copied: If She Won't Stop the Affair?

[LostIn407]

It is important to do everything you can to keep your W with you working on the R.

However, if it is apparent that your W is deadset on going down that path, then if you think you can forgive here, you have to let her. She is going regardless. Don't push her by giving demands or deadlines unless you are ready to back them up.

What is the real issue here in your eyes? Is it her desire to be with the OM or her want of freedom/time away from the M? I thought my W had to decide between A) ME or B) OM. It was actually C) Space. If I would have said drop the OM and come back to me or we get a D, we would have gotten a D and she would have probably dropped OM anyways.