[LITB]

LITB-

Thanknyou for posting this because I don't think we can fully comprehend how much of a challenge to our pride, ego and pain true forgiveness can be; not that I am even close to that. Where I stand in my sitch right now, yes, I say I have forgiven him, and I do mean it. But if I get the chance for reconciliation i can imagine that forgiveness a takes on a whole new meaning and level of introspection.

LITB you know I cheer loudly for you and your family. You show so much strength and wisdom, confidence and you say it as it is.

Wishing you all the best

Thank you Busting. You are always so kind. I appreciate it.

LITB,

I think that forgiveness gets more difficult the closer we are to our spouse. I know it does for me.

Perhaps forgiveness is more of a process..we take steps with it, learn and grow into it...we learn to forgive more as we get closer to them and the hurt that needs to be confronted to heal the M..

It takes way more forgiveness to talk about things like you and W did. It takes more courage. You have shown so much of both already, LITB.

Thank you for sharing your story. ((( )))

NG,

I agree with you on your post. I couldn’t have said it better. It certainly is a process.

Like Busting, thank you for your kind words and dropping in.

Journaling:
As I slept on my thoughts, I realized that my focus was on the challenges and the “negatives” of my sitch in my 2 posts last night. I know it is human nature for us to focus on the blemishes. I also realize that there will be times that things need to be said that are going to hurt.

I had to adjust my lenses and see things from a positive perspective. The positive is that my W is working on herself. She is seeing an IC. She was sharing with ME her intimate thoughts that she is working thru. She is completely open to work on our M.

I needed to slap some gratefulness into myself.

She is working on selling most of our belongings while she is in NM and I am working here in the Bay Area. She has two weeks to get this done as I will be making my way down there to move her back out here.

When I woke up this morning, I sent her a text message (normally we talk, but she was preparing for her yard sale) thanking her for taking on this enormous task. One of her complaints was that she felt I took her for granted, which was accurate. In her reply, she said she needed to hear that.

Overall things are going incredibly well. I’m looking forward to when she is finally out here, so we can really begin to grow and work on our M.