No More LRT, but slow progress

[chatterbug]

Lost you received a few different pieces of advice the past day. Some said to go dark. Some said to not make your self so available at a moments notice.

There is a reason behind this.

The goal is for your wife to miss you.

To realize that she is not in control of the situation.

She is the one having the affair. Not you. You should be in-control of your life and your marriage at this point in time.

Why?

Because you are the only one in it.

So there is no one telling you to be an A. To avoid her.

But to pull back. You have improved. Good. You always speak to your wife with respect and you always act honourable.

That is what being a man is.

But some times we get focused on recovery when we should not be at that stage.

You are not at recovery.

She needs to miss you to be given the opportunity to decide if she wants to recover an equal marriage.

You need this as well.

This is not a high school relationship. The stakes and experience are higher here. So I would put that out of your mind.


And as long as the potential for OM is in the picture. Your R is not building. It is just spinning.

Let her come to you. But not always on the first or second attempt.

Let her work for a change.