It will be the hardest thing to do, but you have to give her the space. She is refusing no contact, so give her space. If you pursue, judge, attack, you will just push her closer to OM.
I am not going to sugar coat it. When you give her the space, she is going to go to him more. Crappy part is that she is going to go to him anyways.
Let the rope go. It will flip the switch on the A from escape to relationship. I would say from experience that this is the key. It is only after you let them go will they begin to see what they are losing.
Or not. My dad married the OW and is still married to her. So yeah, sometimes they don't come back.
So the point is about how long are you going to let her emotionally abuse you like this. How does the poster like being her backup plan?
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
