Very well said Lost,

You are right in that this is not a computer program and taking the cookie cutter approach is not always effective. Given what you just posted it sounds like what you are doing is working, which is the ultimate goal in my eyes. I don't post advice much because I haven't been successful myself. My heart goes out to you though because I know the pain of OP in the marriage. Only you know if you W is drawing closer to you or not, if that is what's happening and it were me I would also be inclined to keep doing what works.

Thanks for your post to my thread the other day it was very insightful and helpful. Have a good weekend!


me 38
W 30
T 3
M in 05/2010
Separated 08/2011
Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8
I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5
Anxiously waiting on the judge!