Zig, I really liked your post on forgiveness, and really needed to hear it. I know they all say its the gift you give yourself, but its incredibly hard sometimes to forgive things that were done intentionally that the other knew would hurt. We as humans want them to be punished for them and show contrition.
But the truth is most of the time we carry it around and they move one....i've really struggled with this since my wife left...i was incredibly angry that she "chose" to take my family away from me, but im understanding more and more that she was trying to "save" herself because she's lost. Thats much easier to forgive in my mind.
I admit empathy is one emotion I really struggle with, I think because on some level when something bad happens to me I just try to move past it and get on with life and think everyone else should as well. So im working hard on really trying to "feel" for others and their situations.
