i can't help thinking tonight, that oh my gosh - i could land up doing the same towards my h - indifference (detachment?) born of pain - that leads to very negative emotions, rather than indifference born of empathy and a healthy turning away that is not riddled with hurt and pain and rejection.
so i am starting again - to first see this man as a human with flaws just like me, to first learn empathy towards him that i trust will lead to forgiveness. for when i truly forgive him, that's when i'll be free of this burden i have carried all my life.
turning that same thought towards my h - when i truly forgive him, that's when i'll be free of this burden i carry now and be able to move forward , free to just be who i am. for as long as i don't truly forgive, i'm not the person i can be.
zig
Thank you for this post zig. Especially the part in bold. I needed this today. Because for much of my life indifference was my way of life. And I honestly think I'm still doing some of that in my sitch now. Time to did deep again.
