Kevd111

[JustStunned]

I definatly cross posted, pesky job that pays the bills, keeps getting in the way. FWIW.

Kevd, Rather than provide verbiage that may not be applicable can you consider thinking about this a different way?

IMO DB is not a tactic or a series of tactics to attract your spouse back. There is a toolkit used and each situation is different. So each tool has different applications

This is a life change that increases your attractiveness. You find things to do that make you happy, that keep you engaged, that make you a better person, that boost your confidence, that challenge you. Make it real

You, happy, engaged, confident accomplishing challenging, honorable activities is attractive. Make it real

You’re not ignoring her.

You are that busy. While you are interacting, she is your focus. While you are in MC or otherwise working on the R it is the focus.

You are not needy, clinging to the hope of reconciliation.

Your old relationship is done, you are done with it. You have/are working toward this new life you’re happy with. You’d like her to be part of that, but that is her choice and something she needs to commit to and work for.

Keep in mind not every marriage is saved, not every divorce busts. Mine was not/did not. I am increasingly becoming satisfied with my life, the relationships that survived and the new ones growing.

So considered from that perspective can you think how you’d respond if she poses one of your questions?