Sorry you are not getting any responses on this board.
It appears that Starsky is giving you good advice over there.
Besides boundaries what are you doing YOU WS?
You are the only one that you can control in this mess.
DB'ing is about making changes in yourself so that you can have a better relationship.
I hope the traffic here starts posting to you.
This will bump you up and lets hope so.
Also a suggestion for everyone reading.
One way to get more posts on your thread is to post on other peoples threads. Even if you have no advice, the fact that you are their and supporting one another really can help.