I know someone who hung in there for years and her H is back. It has been a long, drawn out process. She must have the patience of a saint! You have to decide for you. Your boundaries, your time line, your end result.
I wish at times that I had found this site wnen I first found out about his affair. Maybe it could have been different. Then again, maybe this was how it was supposed to be.
Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory