Need help with detaching and hoping to reconcile.

[lillystillinlove]

Well the session was a little rough, when we got down talking logistics of H moving out he got very defensive. The Dr was able to cool his jets a bit but he took my questions as an attack. Basically he's gotten to the point of moving out but hadn't thought about how it was going to work. He doesn't want our son to know what's going on but he wants to be able to take our so to his place overnight and slowly increase the time spent there. The cover story will be it's a new property that he is remodeling and that they will start off by "camping out" over there and make it a slow transition for our sons sake (ya right). On to the next subject, I bring up that I'm concerned that his place will become the fun zone and our home with me will be the gulag. After some back and forth he seemed to become incredulous and asked do you really think I would do that to you? I didn't want to say what popped in my head so I said I wanted to talk with the Doc there because I didn't want it to escalate because I knew it would. He prodded me to say what I was thinking so after even more prodding I said I don't know what you would do because you have done a lot of things recently that I never thought you would do. That's where the session ended. I am on the hook to email him my question so he can think about them and we can discuss them. He is on the hook to give them some thought and not be defensive, to approach them at face value not as an attack.

So to boil this down a little, I when to a place I didn't want to go to and reacted poorly. Certainly not in a detached manner. Anyone have some advice???