Stand up. Poor and tired, but more than this.

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It's his choice if he wants to end it and he should have to deal with all of the hassle.

As SS said, your H doesn't want a partner anymore, so he should realize that streamlining his life means that he's responsible for all of it.

You are all right, I am fired from wife-role. So that means wife-role has to be filled in by him, or the sheriff or someone else.
When he goes on his next tirade about the papers, I will say (a bit wordy): "I respect that you want a divorce, however I am not in the position of doing the work in order for you to get it. My position is improving myself on what I've learned from this experience for happier marriage, and most importantly, for my own life." He can puff around all he wants then. My answer doesn't change.

I feel so much better after that last journal. Like a huge wave of peace just rolled over my previous pool of anxiety. I CAN do this!
I feel like I can be cordial now. Not emotionally driven.