Now I am trying to find a way to back out of this before I do more damage.
Interesting that you feel like YOU are the one doing the damage while giving her no sense that there are consequences to her actions.
Originally Posted By: LostIn407
Honesty is the one thing I trust my W is giving me right now. She isn't hiding anything. If I ask, she tells. I just chose not to ask questions I don't want to hear the answer to.
And you know this how?
Why even bother to ask anything?
Liars cheat and cheaters lie. She has to EARN your trust back but you need to earn her respect.
She cheated and lied because she does not respect you. You cannot demand respect. You need to ACT the way that she sees that you are serious and decisive with dignity and honour.
Women do not respect men who let themselves to be lied to, disrespected and manipulated.
She is ignoring the issue and you are enabling her to do so.
No dinners, no Mariachi serenades, no toe nail polishing. Lead her to you by her own will or you simply prolong this "friendship" while she is still disrespecting you and your marriage.
Would you be friends with someone who fired you from your job without a respectful dialogue?
Let go of her, drop the rope and get ready for changes.
