Something The Boys And I Have Noticed

[AntoniaB]

Ok let's use your last post to illustrate a point.

You say you are trying. So you give a few lines about an activity you took part in. Good.

And then, do you see it? Right back to trying to be "right" about the situation. You made a prediction about something she'd do, and then it came true. Then the rest of your post except the last line is all about her. Again.

It makes no difference at all to your life if you can predict her insanity or not. None. Because at the end of the day, she's still messing with your head, and you're letting her. It offers you no control over anything if you imagine a scenario and then she plays it out.

The only control you can have in this situation is to control your urge to spend so much time thinking about her and her actions. It comes across like you are a glutton for punishment. YES she is punishing you, but you are letting her do it. What's that line, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent? So stop giving your consent.

I think any time you write a post, you should go back before you hit reply and read it several times to see if there is anything about her in there. If there is, get rid of it, and make the post be about you. What you're doing, how the gym you joined is working out, your job, etc.