I have been reading up on others sitch’s the advise that is given is invaluable. I have not seen much change in my own sitch other than W seems to be more comfortable in the roommate arrangement that we seem to be living under. This is bothersome to me, as I don’t want to be just W’s roommate. W still talk’s in terms of we when we’re talking about non R things. The best I know she is still seeing IC but has had only 2 or 3 visits. In 3 months R has only been talked about maybe 3 times, only once brought up by me fairly early on in sitch. I know that she still isn’t sure she wants to work on M, I know she’s second guessing herself, I know she wants a family for our children.
During a non R talk that was going very well W got very upset when I said that I was not happy about a Doctor’s visit we had had for my oldest son. I said that I thought that Dr. would have done blood test to rule out say mono. W said that I planted a seed in her mind now and just gave her one more F’in thing to worry about. That stuck with me I belive this whole thing really isn’t about us, its about all the other things in her life she has no control over and our R was the only thing she does have that control with, not to say we didn’t have issuses. Last night W told me her mom’s cancer is spreading, I said all the things a good H would say but so just wanted to hug her but she just wont let me in.
Don’t know what im looking for as far as advise just needed to vent some…..
