Thank you guys for your words! I really do heart you all!
I often wonder if judging comes from a place to reassure yourself that you're better than someone else because you aren't like them? I don't know....I think it comes from insecurity. And fear. You want to say what they are doing is wrong and I'd never do that. Or if this person is doing x, then it must mean y about them. And I think through detachment you learn that it doesn't have to mean things about people. That people can do all sorts of things for a million different reasons.
I also think going on this journey..being a WAW, who dated minutes after her split, then spent ages crying, having panic attacks, deciding she wanted him back has made me really empathetic. I put on the board once I used to think "you wanted a divorce, get over it" about people who were struggling and now I see it differently. In fact, I heard some goss about someone I know who is having an affair and the other girls were saying I just can't believe it, it changes everything I thought about her. And I said, "she must be terribly unhappy to do something like that. How long have we known her....how much time have we spent around her H? exactly....it's like they lead separate lives..maybe they've already separated and we don't know....because of everything we know about her think of how horrible it must have been to get to this point" This is something I NEVER would have thought in the past! I would have judged away!
Grace I don't think I'm very smart, but thank you for saying that. I'm just happy I don't feel lost anymore. I'm happy that I've found a way to be happy in the right now. Maybe all this will change and I'll have another wave of pain and sorrow.....or maybe I'll meet prince charming. I think I'm becoming a lot more AWARE of moments when I'm happy and grab onto them, or moments when I see some growth and I celebrate it. I have to say my new clothes and weight loss are helping me LOADS when it comes to confidence. I feel like the old me, but better!
