New to separation. Am I doing the right things?

[Tinman]

Hello Roughenough, I just read thru your story. I went thru the trying to say the house issue several years ago with my ex. She refused to sell it and it drove us deeper in the whole. Plus there were so many memories and if she could not have it she did not want me to have it. So in short it became a huge burden that really kind of turned things very sour.

Everyone kept telling us to get rid of it but sometimes we have to learn the hard way.

You have to be honest with yourself. If you can afford it and it is not causing undue stress to your R then keep it. If it is in any way a burden and you are trying to hold onto it to try and prove something then I am not sure that is the wise move. If you want to show your W that you are making changes then take a hard look at what she has now recommend you do and sell the home or let it go. You are much better off trying to short sale the home as it will do less damage to both your credit.

I know it is hard but in the end a house is just a thing and can be replaced.
Good luck,