I thought the apartment would give her time to think. I was completely wrong. The OM basically moved in instantly. The rules on the apartment were that it was for her to think, the OM wasn't to be around our kids and the OM was not to live there. I agreed to assist her financially as long as these conditions were meant.
About a month after finding out about the OM, I told her I would not continue to "date" her. We were married and I would not share my wife. I said we should not talk until she had time to think and was no longer with the OM. After that talk, she has intensified her time with the OM where he is around my children, including spending the night with them.
I am going to have a talk with her outlining the rules to our separation as I feel it hasn't been defined. I will inform her of the need to establish separate bank accounts so we each know how much money we will have. I will also inform her that I have set a date where I will file if we are not working on our marriage.
Listen to this guy. He had some good ideas there
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
