Any chance to make it work? I need advice

[sweetbabyred]

Last night, around 6pm I got a text from H asking what I was up to. I decided to be honest and say that I was just doing some stuff around my apt, hoping he wasn't going to ask me to do an errand or something for him.

His response- putt putt? Last week I'd printed out the groupon I'd bought back in January (when we had decided to start going on dates again, but never did) that was set to expire yesterday and given it to him. I'd told him to go ahead and take one of his friends.

I'd almost forgotten about it and was pretty sure it was just going to expire. I was surprised that H actually remembered and was willing to take me since he had said he would try to take his best friend.

I met up with him at the house and he said we'd have to hurry because his cousin was in town and he was supposed to go out with her. I wasn't sure how we'd be done in time, but I didn't say anything or try to figure out a plan. Go me!

We had a fun time golfing and playing on the go-carts. As we were finishing up, he said he could take me straight home or I could go with him to the gay bars. I was surprised to be invited along, so I agreed to go.

I like his cousin and her partner, although I've only seen them at family reunions. We had a fun time hanging out and H actually didn't spend all of his time on his phone.

I know that H still has feelings for the other girl, but I was glad to show him that we can still have fun together.

On the ride to golf, he mentioned how he had 3 separate groups of friends- his bf and the gay crowd, his age divorced women w/ kids, and this new group of early 20somethings and that they didn't mix.

I don't know the last group, but the members of the first two really like me and I have no problem hanging out with them. Maybe he's starting to realize that he can't have it all.

His best friend is moving out of state in about three months and H is moving in with another friend for a few months until he can get back on his feet. Maybe this discomfort is what he needs to figure things out.

It may not save our M, but I'll be happy as long as he saves himself. I'm not offering advice, just listening, so I was proud of how I acted yesterday.