I am really feeling like an idiot. Maybe I have been trying to absorb too much advice.
Who is codependent? Me or her? Is it me because she is controlling me when she invites me to do things?
But then I read about detaching and going dark. Wait for your W to invite you to do things, stop the pursuit. Confused how I am supposed to get her to invite me to do things but then her inviting me to do things is bad.
You still are not getting this because you are not detached. You are still pursuing by accepting her invitations. Don't you see how you are still dancing to her tune? She is calling the shots. And tonight, she'll have you out for dinner, in public, to continue this circus. Cancel the dinner. Stay home and fix dinner with your kids. Don't worry about her anger. You have an opportunity here to show strength and decisiveness. Use it.
