No More LRT, but slow progress

[chatterbug]

I am meeting W for dinner in about 5 hours. I am going to just memorize what I want to say.

But then do I say it or just start declining invitations from her? I would say that 60% of the time, it is her inviting me to do things.

Help me deny her request. I do not help her financially right now but can see her asking me this month since she is changing jobs.

Please do not do this.

You have already committed to meeting her for dinner.

Here is a great 180 for you.

Go there. Have dinner. Keep topics light and breezy. Lead. Talk about current topics in the news.

If she brings up about the loss of job.

Say. " I have confidence that you will find another job. How is the looking going. Any leads. "

Do not say " I know. Here is 20k to tide you over." It is July. You know she wanted to go away with OM. Giving her any extra money will just enable the affair even longer.

If she brings up about needing money.

"I know times are tough. It has been difficult financially the past few years. Did you talk to unemployment? Any leads on a new job. "

If she brings up relationship talk.

" Wife, I have decided that I will no longer talk to you about our relationship while you have a boyfriend."

Then use the

1. "Yeah, I can see how difficult this has become."
2. "This isn't working for me."
3. "No"

Cycle through them when needed.


If there are any pauses. Let the silence stand for a minute or two. Serious. Let there be uncomfortableness.

You just sit there with your back straight. Looking happy. Speeding it along.

Cause you have to leave. You have to go GAL.



Then the next time she asks you to do something. Say.

" Wife. I am busy that night. But I think I am free 2 nights later. How about then?"



If you cannot handle this. And you know you will cave.

say.

"Wife. Something has come up and I will not be able to attend dinner tonight. Raincheck ok."