i've noticed the same - i've stopped judging other people and when someone else judges them - my first thought is wonder what is difficult in their lives that makes them that way.

and then the funny thing - my h is SOOOOOO judgmental and always criticizing everything and everyone constantly. i used to join in - and now, i just say mildly that maybe that other person, that he's judging had some issues of their own.

i think you're right vera - we've learned to respect how difficult it is to change ourselves - what an agonizing process, and that makes us realize first before judging that the other person may want to change but could be finding it very hard to do.

i find myself saying often - here i am, with the deliberate intent to change my ways finding the process so hard and long. what must it be like for someone who hasn't even realized yet that changes can be made

brit
i am so so so glad to hear your quiet serenity. and to be happy for your h the way you describe - aah - so beautiful...

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h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"