I understand you feeling in limbo and wondering if you're waiting for something that will never happen.

As long as you know that you don't want a divorce, I'd recommend just lying low and letting your H take care of everything. Maybe having him go through all of the work necessary to end the M will make him take the time to think everything through.

In the end, the result may be the same, but you'll know that you didn't help participate in a divorce you didn't want and you stood for your M.

Sometimes I do wonder if I'm just waiting around, while my H goes out and does whatever he wants, but I know that I'm not ready to date and my life wouldn't be much different if I was divorced, so I don't want to pressure him to make a choice right now.

You are doing amazing at not pressuring him or asking him to rethink his decisions, so I think you should be able to wait a little longer if you want to. If/when you decide you're done, then you can go ahead and make the process move faster.

M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13