I think you're right. It is SO hard to sit on your hands and not fire off a letter when your child is endangered. And Ryan is SO special and we have been through SO much. I am almost certain that he chooses NOT to bring her in to the hospital (or the kid) but maggot pushes and pushes until she gets it HER way. She has a long history of doing this - making other people uncomfortable and also to push my buttons.
I have an excellent rapport with the head nurse so I will sit down and talk to her about this. I will make a list of visitors for her - it is a really short list but it is people who know and care about Ryan (immediate family & his workers). I had already talked about what I was comfortable with during his visit - like not taking him outside (I do NOT trust him). But on the w/e - things were fairly lax. That is NOT ok with me.
But the only way to not allow this to escalate, in my opinion, is to NOT confront him. I know he won't be back soon as it is a 3 hour drive. But since it is summer and I live in the lake district - he will probably come back before summer's end.
My workers were told how to handle it after the first time she came along and got too up close and personal. I told them to guard Ryan. I put NOTHING past maggot. That she could not get close when they are doing personal care (such as flushing out his tummy tube). And to speak up when she starts touching him. That Ryan does not like that (he doesn't).
It amazes me that people would go this far and not consider Ryan's rights. A few years ago when Ashley saw her dad take Ryan on an outing then pick maggot up at the store at the end of our street - she called him out on it. Told him she was NOT ok with it. That Ryan can't speak for himself but that she and Brandon don't want to be around maggot and they don't want that for Ryan either. My lawyer told me that was the best way to handle it - let them tell their dad, not me. I don't think he wants to alienate them further.
