I am still just INCENSED that he brought maggot and the kid to visit Ryan in hospital. Ryan does not even know them. He is immunocompromised. He has been on 8 antibiotics in 5 months and has pretty much no defences. I had told him he would need to gown to visit. I have a feeling that they were lax and the w/e and didn't make him do it so he just allowed maggot and the kid in. I am SO not ok with this.
But how do I make myself clear to him when he takes everything I say as a threat and retaliates. maggot knows no limits. My workers have told me that he has brought her along on visits and she has got in so close to him - touching him, her face practically in his belly when they are tube feeding him so she can "see".
My workers have also told me that she has hugged them. They have told me that they are extremely uncomfortable with this. When my ex's affair started - people who knew her told me that her behaviour was extreme and she knew no limits. She also would push harder if rules were put in place (co workers mentioned this).
So - what to do. I can't email him - he won't give me his email. Phoning usually ends in a shouting match. I can text - but hard to get my point across. Do I write a letter? Outline what is acceptable? Will this make it better or worse? Or do I just let the hospital control the hospital and my workers control his visits? Or do I only allow him visits at my house - alone. (he does not know where I live).
