Don't do it!!
It's a boat he needs to steer.
When/if my H brings up divorce I will tell him to do what he has to do. I will not pay for it and I will not participate in filing jointly but I also will not stand in his way by contesting.

DO NOT do this work unless a divorce is what you want.

IMHO anyway.....

me 45
H 46
T 5
M 2.5
BD Sept 6 2011
OW Sept 8 2011
Threw him out Sept 8 2011