I am so sorry. I've been told by several people here to wait until your emotions settle down before you make any decisions. I think this would very much apply to you too. You've been put in a very difficult situation and I do think it's very smart for you to talk to a L tomorrow.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.