Quote: I feel loved when: I am shown appreciation and affection. I am romanced and wanted, trusted, listened to, and my feelings are validated
There is nothing wrong with your needs. From "His Needs/Her Needs" book, here are the top 5 needs for the average woman:
Affection Conversation Honesty and Openness Financial Support Family Commitment
Put a heavy emphasis on #1 and 2.
THIS IS NORMAL. But now to understand your husband, your safest assumption is that these are NOT HIS NEEDS. Here are the needs of the average man (from the same book as above):
SEXUAL FULLFILLMENT Recreactional Companion Physical Attractiveness Domestic Support Admiration
HIS NEEDS ARE NORMAL AS WELL. The trick her is to find a solution for BOTH spouses to get their needs met. I can tell you that if he is HD, then almost all of his needs will focus around #1 Sexual Fullfillment. THIS IS NOT SEX!! He could have sex with a hooker. What he probably wants is to have sex with someone that DESIRES to have sex with him. This is the TOUGH part, finding the desire, and there is no easy answer. Read Corri's Link and you will find many suggestions.
