Thank you Corri, you are someone I hoped would respond to my plea for help. I can see that you have come along way and I can only hope to progress as you have.
How do I feel about myself?: My ability to trust 100% is handicapped. I feel lonely, misunderstood, betrayed, scared and unappreciated. Yet, I still feel strong, determined, proud, and independent.
I feel loved when: I am shown appreciation and affection. I am romanced and wanted, trusted, listened to, and my feelings are validated.
Quote: What do you mean when you say that someone needs to honor and respect you? How? What is your expectation in regard to this?
Hmmm, I mean that when and if I object to doing something, that my decision not to participate is accepted and final. I am treated as a woman and not a possession. My expectation in regard to this is that it should not have changed when I accepted his proposal.
I hope that is what you were looking for. So I guess now I need to come up with ways that my H can make me feel loved so that I will feel like ML? I also need to find out what makes him feel loved, so I can give him those things. This is where my scared feeling comes in - this is alot of work!
