So now W is job hunting, which should be short with her established clientele. She just needs to find a new salon. I am a natural protector/provider. This is going to be tough for me. I recently got a $20,000/yr promotion. Helping the W financially wouldn't affect me at all. This is going to be a tough one.
There is nothing tough about it.
Stop rescuing her. She needs to put on the Big Girl Panties.
And you need to work on your self esteem beyond looking good and toned.