Okay, believe it or not, I think I can offer up to you some useful advice as we've had similar experiences. I'd be more than happy to chew on it with you.
So, you've decided to save your marriage, and I believe you are right when you say that you have started down the path of forgiveness just by making that decision.
I'm going to ask you some questions, not because I want you to defend yourself, your position, or because I want you to understand him. I'm going to ask you these questions so that you may begin to find a process that will work for you to leave it all behind.
1. You have had some terrible sexually related traumas happen to you in your past and with your husband.
How does that make you feel about yourself? Not THEM, about yourself? Are you angry? Sad? Powerless? Keep this in the context of you, not the perpatrators.
What makes you feel love? What do you mean when you say that someone needs to honor and respect you? How? What is your expectation in regard to this?
