XYZ here again...

[XYZ]

When I was in the bomb phase, how many times did I say here "you're exactly right, Jack"? Well, I'll say it again.

So, Tuesday is date night. Next Tuesday, I will (calmly, politely, yet firmly) tell W how I feel. I won't accuse, threaten, yell or anything close to that. I will tell her how I feel.

I had thought waiting was best for several reasons. First and foremost, during MC, one of the cycles we identified was me feeling deprived (usually around sex) --> bugging her with "more more more" --> her getting angry and disengaging --> me feeling more deprived --> lather, rinse, repeat.

My solution was stop with the "more more more". So far, it hasn't lead to a re-engagement from her (in that department). I need to tell her how I feel without pressuring her. That will be a bit of a tight-rope and I'm nervous about that. I should probably just say that to her.

I also wanted to wait because school will be back in. Before the kids were out of school, they were in bed by 9:00 - that gave W and I some time together. That ended when school did. Now, kids are up until 9:30 or 10:00 and more often than not, W falls asleep while putting one of them to bed (she tucks 1 in, I tuck in the other). With school comes a schedule.

All that makes sense to me. It also makes sense to me that I feel anger and resentment building and I need to stop that now -- only way is to discuss it. So that's what I'll do. Tuesday.

And yes, Jack, I show her affection often. I help a bunch around the house and with the kids. I listen to her intently. I actually really love those times.