LD: Just a question out of curiosity here...what do you make of all the people who wrote in and said that they did not mind being fondled while they were sleeping, or being woken up with sex, etc?
I am not saying that you are wrong. I am just saying that there are a LOT of people out there who don't share your idea of sleep sex being offensive. I agree with you that if you said he shouldn't do that, then he shouldn't do that. He CAN control himself, you know.
As far as this knight in shining armour bit. I think you should kick that idea to the curb, pronto. This is a dead end road for you. There is NO husband or wife who, years after marriage, still fits in the knight in shining armour mold. You are being totally unrealistic. You are holding on tightly to this anger and resentment so that you are excused from moving forward and examining what things YOU have done in this marriage to make it go downhill, imo.
You can't un-do what he did. You can't even control the idiot mistakes that he has made in the past. All you can do is make yourself a better person and wife and hope that he is smart enough to do the same.
One more suggestion: I think the two of you are in desperate need of joint counseling. I wonder why it was just you going by yourself??
I also wanted to point out to you that my own H has hurt me beyond what I thought I could endure or get past. I am happy to report that we have made it through to the other side. Two years ago, I don't think I could have even envisioned being where we are today. We are totally different people.
