verab, thanks for stopping in. I think hiring a L is a necessary evil right now. In theory, we could do what we're doing for half the cost. With my W's judgement right now, though, I don't feel comfortable moving any further down this path without representation. I absolutely need to make sure my S's proected, KWIM?
Leading my Tuesday night group at church turned out pretty well. We had some really good conversations. I stayed afterward talking to one of the ladies in the group in the parking lot until about 10:45pm.
OK, so I was supposed to meet with L #1 yesterday. I showed up, and there was nobody home. I received a call back later yesterday afternoon with the paralegal apologizing profusely. I am re-scheduled for next Wednesday now with that L. However, that is a big black mark even it was an honest mistake. I am still waiting for L #2 to get something on my calendar for next Tuesday.
I had told my W I would have an update by Friday at the latest. Now, I had tomorrow's update last night. However, I think I'm just going to go ahead and provide my update tomorrow when I get a chance. The update is pretty simple right now and it's not going to be what she wants to hear. It is that I'm meeting with two Ls next week. Oh well, it is what it is. I'm not going to scramble and try to make things happen this week. It's certainly an option, but not one I'm going to take.
I did get a 3 mile run last night after Midnight. I have a group bike ride planned with the local bike shop tonight, so that should be fun.
Thanks, veroprado! I did! It was a little tough, because I've not ridden with this particular group in 4 weeks, and these rides include some pretty decent hills on our way into the city.
I called my W to give her an update today. I pretty much had the same update as I would've had on Wednesday, but I had promised no later than today, so I waited until today.
I started the conversation by saying I had 4 things for her. 1) S is apparently doing well at camp because I haven't heard anything 2) I have another camp, a day camp that I'd like to sign S up for 3) I am still looking into a C for S (to handle his "anger" issues, as far as my W is concerned - I'm looking for a little more comprehensive help for him) 4) I gave her an update on me talking to Ls
It turned out just fine as far as I could tell. Both of us were upbeat and positive during the conversation.
I think the best thing of all is I am really at peace with hiring a L. Now if I could only get them to turn around the fees to have them sponsor me to go to Belize again next year on a mission trip.
It seems like nowadays there's at least something going on.
Picked up my S from camp last Friday afternoon. He shared with me that he had made a decision to be baptized. He wanted me to do it. Then he told me wanted to do it Sunday! So I set everything in motion to get it done. My S was pretty tired on Friday night so we just stayed home, picked up a pizza and relaxed.
I had shared with my W on Friday night my S's wishes to be baptized. She really didn't say a whole lot about it. But when I told her on Saturday that it was going to be Sunday, she got ticked at me about the short notice. I called her and we were able to smooth things over. She wanted to be there, and wanted some of her family to come.
I know I shouldn't have, but I had a serious high level of anxiety about my W coming to church on Sunday. That, combined with the excitement over my S getting baptized, led to lack of sleep on Saturday night.
Sunday came. My W came to my church for the first time since about March or April of last year. Unfortunately, this created a little sideshow of anxiety for me. (Will she want to sit with us? Is she going to show up? Will she feel judged?) I did my best not to worry about those things and just be myself. To some degree I was successful.
The baptism was awesome!! What a privilege to baptize your own S!! My W was there and graciously took pictures for me.
My W, me, my S, MIL, SIL, and my Mom all went out to lunch together. I was just myself at lunch. I joked around with everyone, including my SIL and MIL. My W seemed very disconnected. The subject of camp came up, and I had taken a picture on my phone of S kayaking. This was during the open house for the camp back in May. She loved the picture and asked if I could send it to her. I had posted the picture out on FB back in May, but she de-friended me last year so she's never seen the picture. We parted company with a round of hugs after lunch. I exchanged hugs with my MIL & SIL. My W exchanged hugs with no one.
Wow, she seems very unhappy and probably doesn't even know why.
Congrats on the baptism!!
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
Sunday afternoon, I took the time to download the pictures from my camera. I realized my W has not seen any of the pictures of our S I've been posting on FB. I burned her a CD of several pictures of my S from his birthday party, my trips to NC and Chicago with my S on Spring Break, vacation with my S, VBS. All were pictures exclusively of my S. I was in 2 of the pictures, I think, from VBS. I just cut the CD because I think she'd like pictures of my S. I'm grateful that she still cares about my S.
I had a meeting a church on Sunday evening for my upcoming mission trip to WV. After the meeting, my S and I went out to dinner, and then to Kings Island for a bit. My S met another kid there and we had a great time.
When we were walking out to the car, I was praising my S for being friendly to the other kid we met there. It was then he shared that his good side doesn't always come out over at his Mom's, and a lot of it was because of OM. He went on to say my W is about to break up with OM, that he has one foot out the door, and that he's a frequent liar. What does this mean? Nothing right now. She's still with OM. And if she does break up with him, it might only mean there will be OM #(n+1).
Last night, my W texts me to ask me if I know where the title to the car is and if I know the radio code. I had just gotten back from a softball game. I waited a couple of hours and just replied back with that everything should be in the folder for the car and I can just give her the folder. The car's in her name, and she's been trying to sell it. However, I've always organized everything. In the past, I probably would've gotten everything together for her that she needed and I thought she would need, but she can dig through all the stuff to get what she needs.
Still been staying busy GAL'ing. I'm having fun with my S, softball game last night, a group that's meeting at church tonight, and I ran 3 miles yesterday morning and biked 17 miles this morning.
This afternoon, I meet with a L. I am going to discuss options in getting the paperwork over to my W's L to put the draft settlement together. I want to discuss options and rights in general. I have an appointment with another L tomorrow for comparison.
It is that I'm meeting with two Ls next week. Oh well, it is what it is. I'm not going to scramble and try to make things happen this week. It's certainly an option, but not one I'm going to take. 
I have a group bike ride planned with the local bike shop tonight, so that should be fun. 
I am not hiding anymore. 
He wanted me to do it. 
So I set everything in motion to get it done. My S was pretty tired on Friday night so we just stayed home, picked up a pizza and relaxed.
I called her and we were able to smooth things over. She wanted to be there, and wanted some of her family to come.
