Quote: How do you KNOW your body is limp and unwilling? How do you KNOW how your body is responding in your sleep?
I know because I sometimes wake up to him agressively caressing me or feeling me up and I pull away, turn over, slap his hands away, or tell him, "I'm really tired and just want to sleep, please go to sleep".
Quote: Don't forget to consider reasons other than psychological ones for your loss of libido. Thyroid problems, female hormone problems, fatigue due to other disorders, and clinical depression can all cause this - and can all be treated
I asked my doctor many times if she could test my hormone levels and she told me I'm completely normal and healthy due to the fact that I had problem-free pregnancies. I always figured it had to be me, but respect is such a huge issue for me, so it just makes sense to me that respect is the underlying issue.
Quote: How about you sleep in separate beds for a while (then you don't have to be anxious about sleeping, and he can masturbate in privacy as needed) while you agree to initiate sex 3 times a week. Adrenaline rushes are good for recapturing that "falling in love" feeling.
I'm patiently waiting for our boarder to leave at the end of this month so I can move into the bedroom downstairs. Initiating sex 3xweek is not an option I'm even willing to consider at the moment. I do not agree that just because we are married I must have sex with him. That's utter crap! How the hell am I supposed to initiate sex with someone I don't respect? This is NOT like getting back on a horse after you've been bucked off!
I realize you're only trying to help and I thank you for offering your suggestions. I guess I just can't wrap my head around giving something to someone who was been stealing it for so long.
