Let's say she is having some thoughts and the music she listens to is pushing her to feel a certain way.
You bring this to her attention and now she doesn't feel 'secure' in her music because she thinks it is making you feel a certain way. She feels she is giving you more hope than there really is.
So she stops listening to the music that brings back the good memories. She stops getting pushed. She goes the other way. You just lost.
Instead of her being in control of where she goes, she now feels you are trying to steer her. Maybe she was headed that direction but didn't realize it. You just woke her up and told her that is where she was going. Now she is going to jerk the steering wheel away from there.
Ever grill a steak? What's the best advice I can give for grilling a steak? Turn once.
If you keep poking the steak, turning it, checking it, you will ruin it. Let the flame do the work sealing in the flavor and juices.
TIME. Time is your friend.
Let things build on their own without any interference from you.
M-40 W-33 D3, D4, SD13 T 9 YEARS M 5 YEARS ILYBINILWY APRIL 2012
