Quote: Yes, he is awake and I'm fast asleep when this happens. In the past, he's said that he can't help it. He's said that he's half asleep and didn't realize he was doing it. He's even said that he hoped he would turn me on and that I'd wake up and join in.
This is not rape. This is a loving husband who wants intimacy with his wife. Lots of people initiate sex in their sleep - check out the related thread on the sexual issues board.
Look - what worries me about this thread is this: LD has said that her H is in all other respects a great guy. That she started withdrawing from him sexually as soon as the marriage started. And now that she starts the process of counselling that might teach her how to be in a more intimate (and therefore more vulnerable) relationship with her H, she finds a reason to take the focus off of her very obvious problems and put the blame back on her H. I think it's obvious that she's terrified of a really good loving intimate R because then she would have to be more open and vulnerable.
