"Does it ever backfire on you to make the plans without thinking about the other person?"
Nope. Not at all. It shows you are moving forward. They can either come along or get left behind.
Remember, these plans are about your children. Not you and your spouse. Keep the focus on them.
What has backfired? Making plans because I thought about the other person.
I wanted to take my Ds to see Madagascar 3. I thought it would be a good way to spend time with the W. I would make plans to see the movie with the Ds and let the W know (invite). So I held off on taking them until I told the W my plans.
A couple of days later, I get a text from the W that she is watching Madagascar 3 with the Ds.
Now I have to wait until it comes out on video because I don't think a grown man should go see Madagascar 3 by himself. Creepy.
My W didn't make plans for me. I am not entitled to make plans with her. By trying to include her, I missed out on taking my Ds to a movie. I love to watch them at the theater. I loss my chance.
M-40 W-33 D3, D4, SD13 T 9 YEARS M 5 YEARS ILYBINILWY APRIL 2012
