Quote: LD - get a grip on yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can't you see what you are doing? Your history of molestation in childhood is causing you to view your H as a molester because he wants to make love to his wife??? Do you WANT to be stuck in a victim mode all your life? Wake up!
I'm trying to help you see how screwed up your vision of your H is before you blow this marriage and screw up your kids lives. A man wanting to make love to his wife is NOT about him trying to "get something" for himself! he hopes you'll wake up when he starts initiating and say "ooh baby I want you too!".
Wow! I need to ask you a question. Did your H ever have sex with you after you said no? I don't buy that I've got some warped vision or confusion of my H. Like I said earlier, it's not as if I rejected him every time, but if I said no, that should have been respected. Does that change just because you get married and are monogamous??
Our relationship was perfect until the night he chose to have sex with me even though I had said no. It wore down each and every time he disrespected me. But I need to wake up and get a grip? Really?
