Stand up. Poor and tired, but more than this.

[sweetbabyred]

Lio, our H's sound so similar. Mine has also told me we can see where life takes us and maybe we'll end up back together after the divorce.

I don't think he understands the amount of counseling we'd need for me to be able to trust a spouse who walked out on his marriage vows the first time to not do it again the second time around!

My H hasn't filed yet, and I've told him that I don't want a divorce, so he has to do all of the paperwork himself. I won't fight for anything, but I'm not going to help the process.

It's his choice if he wants to end it and he should have to deal with all of the hassle.

As SS said, your H doesn't want a partner anymore, so he should realize that streamlining his life means that he's responsible for all of it.

I'd act pleasant toward him, but I'm not sure if I'd go as far as being chipper. Then again, I'm not sure what to do with my own sitch,so you may not want to take advice from me!