Any chance to make it work? I need advice

[sweetbabyred]

I didn't go over there with the intention to bandage his foot. I assumed he was a grown man and would have done that before I got there. I went over about two hours after I spoke with him because I had my own stuff to do, so he had plenty of time to take care of it.

I didn't know the story of how he'd hurt it until I got there and in my defense, it was about four days ago, so it was before I decided that I really needed to be less available.
The last I'd heard, he was with mutual guy friends on the other side of town, so it came as a surprise to me.

I think that was the straw that broke the camel's back. He can't come running back to me to do all of the grown up stuff if he doesn't want me in his life.

At one point I thought that because he was depressed and had such low self esteem, that it might actually help him to see that I still cared, but I don't think that's helped the sitch at all.

I wanted to think that my sitch was different, but obviously it's not. I've had enough of being co-dependent and always taking care of him. He's a grown man so he needs to figure out who's going to watch his son when he's busy working or how he's going to pack up all of his stuff to move.

Not that I can't wait to see my stepson, but I'm not going to offer to have him so that H can go out and have fun or make things easier for him.

My MIL told me to be less available so that he could really see how life will be without me. I think I'm finally strong enough to do that.

SS, thank you so much for taking the time to read my posts and give me feedback. I really do appreciate it. I am paying attention, even if it may seem that I'm not doing what I'm supposed to.