In home separation? Off / On? Still WAW? Dunno

[breakdownbill]

Thanks Yankee

I'll have to look into the hormones being a possibility, my W turns 32 next month, a little young for it but not unheard of.

It would sure explain a few things, but I don't think it's that simple. (I wish )

I think that after that R talk, it shook her up a bit and then she started working again. I'll have to put my thinking cap on to see what might be able to tip the scales a bit for you.

I think you might be right about that because, even though I wasn't expecting this R talk - I was a million miles ahead in terms of controlling my behaviour and emotions since the last one a few months ago.

I even laid out a few boundaries about the OM who she still dances with.

She went out that evening to a charity night for work & it was me who broke the ice & initiated the ML, but for a few days after she was very flirty & warm towards me.

Off the top of my head, I'm thinking distance. The old, "They don't know what they have until they've lost it". You've done an amazing amount of work and she will be thinking about that - AND you are an amazing dad. This is surely working in your favour.

I know whether or not I move out in the near future, the distance will be there again once I start this course in September. It's going to be so intense 38 weeks non-stop teaching, planning, marking & doing assignments & another dissertation at a Masters level.

My GAL has to be pretty modest, not just because of money, but also time, plus I am still trying to protect my W, by not telling my friends what's happened or is happening between us. I guess it's really hard to explain as well, when you're confused about it all yourself most of the time. The less they see of me, the less they'll ask about my W (I need to fix this sooner than later - miss spending time with them).

One other thing I'm thinking on the job front. My H was also pissed off about my money/work situation.

I did try pushing for work pretty hard for a few weeks, applied for about 10 jobs, signed up with loads of temping agencies, but noone wants to give me a job for just a few weeks.

My start date for my course is the 3rd of September & I can't work while I am on this course. But I will get the equivallent of $1400 per month while I am on the course, so money will be OK in a couple of months.

My plan is to do stuff that I have got control over, DIY and decorating in the house.

Wow - just got a text from my W saying that she is going to book a table at a restaurant for my graduation next Tuesday!! - That's huge for me!!

Bill