I have a bit more time this morning to consider and respond since my H went out fishing on his own while my skin recovers from yesterday's sun.
I was rereading your comments from a couple of days ago and I agree that H is laying the groundwork. And it's been really interesting observe his actions and a relief not to have an ongoing R talk going on. It's a good thing I read, "How to fix your marriage without talking about it". Thank you so much for interpreting his actions into something I can understand, as it is a different kind of language than what women themselves do.
Male and female communication styles are quite different and it's interesting to me now to see them very clearly. These last 7 months - I've been thinking - have helped to clear out some old patterns that weren't working and it feels like starting over again. But, I mustn't count my chickens before they hatch.
So, yesterday - another grand day. Went out boating a bit and he asked simply, "Are you happy?" I said, "Oh yes, I'm really enjoying myself, having a great time!" A few minutes later I said it again, and later in the day again. I was in fact feeling very happy indeed. I love our routine, and we share much of the same attitudes towards a lot of things. We are so well cut out for each other, and I admit, I do feel a lot more relaxed and easygoing than I ever have in the past. I feel more mature. I am sure GALing has helped tremendously with that.
At dinner yesterday we were ordering food. The waiter says, 'Mrs ___" - calling me by my maiden name. It's because the waiter knows my father and so just calls me that. My H picked up on that and said, "Did he just call you Miss or Mrs (maiden name)?" I said, "He called me Mrs maiden name. Why?" My H said, "Because you're a Mrs not a Miss." I said, "Yes, I am a Mrs. I think we have to establish your name here because they all just call us all by my family name, but they also all know you are my dad's son in law and they refer to you that way. I think it's just because they don't know our surname." He seemed satisfied with that.
My dad has been coming here to this town for AT LEAST 30 years, and so everyone knows my dad which makes things simple.
We stayed up playing board games and having some good laughs.
The one thing I didn't mention which is of significance to this trip is that I separated from my H the first time ever 2 years ago here in this very town. So yeah, this is the site of the original 'car crash'.
