An Unexpected Journey: A New Chapter

[AJM]

GM, I get the emotions tied to his actions. I get the protectiveness. Been there.

But something to consider over time: while you may not help your H with the relationship with the boys, you certainly shouldn't hinder it either. Honestly, you have to be careful to not let the boys feel sold out by their mom, so doing too much is not a good idea either. But thinking about the boys long term, it might be a good idea to consider your words carefully and encourage a relationship, even in small ways, where appropriate. For their sake and their sake alone.

They know what he did. Likely even more than you do if I were to guess. I'm not suggesting you get in the middle, but rather that you consider their lives without their dad, 10, 20, 30 years down the road. If you can keep them from that pain without causing them to distrust you, then it's worth doing. Really.

Something to consider.

AJ