"Every DB coach I have spoken to has drilled into me to change my time frame. I thought they were nuts. But that is the best advice I can give you. If you change your time frame you will recognize that you have time to show your changes."

BM, i really like this. thank you for sharing. what this tells me is if i let go of thinking that we should be back together by now, or by christmas, or whatever, and just let it happen, when and if it happens, i will lose a lot of that anxiety i have about where we are NOW.

it says to me, relax and enjoy the time you have to make the changes you need to make. i guess it's the old "gift of time" thing!

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing