Seriously, you are not ready to date. Don't even ponder the thought cuz then you're doing the same as HER!
My H said the same thing when I called OW his "girlfriend." He smirked and said it's not that.
He also doesn't bring her around his friends or family. They made it clear they don't want her around, plus I think his sister would beat her up
My H loves to travel and I was always reluctant cuz of our son's health condition. Yesterday he suggested we take a weekend trip together! LOST I AM GOING! I know I made it clear to him that I am not going to act as a family while he's with OW but this is an opportunity I will regret it if I miss it! 3 consecutive days as a family, come on! I know my kids are irresistible but now it's me that will be irresistible! 3 days where I will be the new me, happy, optimistic, playful. The REAL me!
If you feel crappy after your trips with W cuz she's with OM then set it as a boundary. Say, I would love to go on another trip with you (wherever you'd like after you have ended your relationship with OM.
If she sees you dating, she may think, "oh good, he'll be happy now" then after a month (I'm guessing) she'll have 2nd thoughts. BUT you have added another person to this sitch and you will be hurting them...
I would wait 6mos after you have truly detached (which you won't just because your dating) to start seeing other people. Also, be the ROCK for your kids. The emotionally stable parent. They will look up to you in the future as to how you handled yourself in this sitch!
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
