At this point I'm wondering how far my H will take his threats regarding the boys. They have both asked to be left alone. My H is convinced that I'm the reason they don't want to see him. The truth is his behavior scares them. He has traumatized them first by abruptly leaving and now with his desperate contact. Before he has anymore contact with the boys I want him to receive counseling so he understands what he's done to them and what is not appropriate conversation and behavior. They want a father not a buddy to hang out with for a few hours when it's convenient. They certainly don't need to hear him continue to justify his behavior by blaming me.
All the advice I received in the beginning about hiring an attorney and protecting myself makes total sense now. Being a newbie I just couldn't fathom how threatening my H would become. He's the worst enemy I've ever had. I was so busy blaming myself, trying to make changes, etc. that I didn't want to push him further away by protecting myself legally. Huge mistake on all fronts. And the constant reminders by veterans that this has nothing to do with the LBS - underscore that 100 times. I finally get it!
